If two people are in love maintaining relationship is easy but maintaining an online relationship is challenging, an online relationship is a form of long-distance relationship, therefore, it’s very stressing to two people apart together. But no worries because there are some ways to make online relationship work (LDR).
1. Communication Is The Best Key
Communication is very important to everyone, but this is gold for two couples who are apart. Try to always communicate with your partner no matter how busy you are. Don’t make your partner feel ignored, try to talk or chat with each other for at least 30 minutes to 1 hour. And if you are both very busy, leave a message and tell the reason and promise that you will talk to her after work or tomorrow or just simply say “I love you and I’ll talk to you after work”.
2. Don’t Forget Important Events/Occasions
If you don’t want another world war don’t forget important events and occasion such as birthdays, anniversary and even special occasion that you know important to your partner. And it doesn’t matter if it is just an interview job or anything, the important thing is told her good luck and always cheer her to everything she needs to accomplish.
3. Be Romantic
Send her surprise like sending a flower or any gifts, you can do that once in a while. She can feel her importance and she also can feel your presence if you do that. If you are in other countries that sending present online don’t exist there is another way to do it, ask a favor to one of her closest friends to help you to surprise her. Being romantic to your loved one is the most love exciting you can do for her.
4. Spend Quality Time And Quality Fun
Spending time playing together online with your favorites online games is the best bonding moments you can do even if you are in a different country. Do this if you both have time and enjoy it together, by doing it you can feel the closeness together and forget the distance between you and her.
5. Talk About Future
When you drag your online relationship too long without discussing future plans, one of you may look for someone else who is more serious. What’s the point of having a long relationship if there is no plan for the future, sounds that you are just wasting time to your partner if there is no plan for the future, it is good to look forward to brighter future ahead? Having a concrete path to attain helps you to know whether the relationship is worth the time. Talking about future helps you both to have a strong bond and look forward to the future.
6. Control Anger and emotion
Having a long distance relationship makes people think crazy things about their partner and it has no difference to the online relationship. A lot of things running in your head if one of you didn’t reply to the message or didn’t answer your call right away. You can start to make all sorts of assumptions that are usually exaggerated and untrue. Avoid doing it if you want your online relationship work.
7. Make communication Optional
I know I tell earlier that communication is the best key to make an online relationship work, but there are certain couple don’t want a force communication. They are contented to talk once a week or just leaving a message to each other then replied if they have time. They don’t force each other to stay in front of the computer every day to talk, because if they do it the excitement to talk to each other can be gone. They both understand that each of them needs alone time but it doesn’t mean they don’t care to each other, this is what we called “trust”. They have trust in each other that is why they don’t force each other to communicate every day, they can opt out anytime because communication for them is optional.
8. Stay Positive
You both need to stay positive and stop thinking any negativity that can affect your relationship. Being positive can stay your relationship stay stand and strong. Sometimes couples become weak and impulsive to their decision because of negativity, they think that they cannot survive their relationship because of distance, and sometimes they become negative thinker because they listen to other people or too much watching drama series on TV.
9. Be A Super Hero
I’m not saying be a superman or spiderman for your partner, it means to be there for her when she needs somebody to talk too or somebody to cry on. Everybody has their own issue to their life and family if your partner has a problem help her as much as you can. Always listen if she wants to say something about her problem, make her calm, show your care to her, call her if she needs you. The distance is not a problem, what important is she can feel your care, concern, and love. If she feels that you are always there for her no matter what, she will love you more and more.
10. Team Effort
It’s good that both of you are making effort to make your relationship work, it’s not fair if only one of you putting effort to make your relationship work. If you have different time zone, you can both do sacrifice to stay up late just to talk to each other, it’s not fair that your girlfriend is the only who always stay up late every day, do it vice versa if this week she is awake every night just to talk to you then next week it’s your turn to do it. I know some couples that have a different time zone and it’s so funny that only one of them sacrifice to stay awake every night. I asked them why do you tolerate that, why not let your boyfriend stay awake at night to his country to talk to you, their answer is they love their boyfriend, oh geez! A weekend is fine but every day is too much. It’s not bad to love somebody from other country and it’s not bad to fight for long distance relationship or online relationship but do some team effort to make your relationship strong and healthy, it’s not good that only one does the effort it’s unhealthy in my opinion. Remember that it takes two dedicated people for a long-term relationship to exist.
Can online relationship work? yes, of course, it simply depends on both of you, because there is no impossible for two people loving each other. If you love each other distance doesn’t matter the important thing is you love each other and you both believe that you can be together soon.
If you have any question or any LDR experience that want to share don’t hesitate to comment down below.
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