Nowadays, dating online is the easiest way to find Girlfriend, wife, and Husband. Each of us has a reason why do we prefer finding someone online. But before you meet your chat mate, how prepared and secure are you? I have some tips for you to secure yourself in case you decided to meet your chat mate. No matter how in love you are to your chat mate you still must think the possibility that anything could happen to you.
Meeting For The First Time
- Choose a place where you’re comfortable – If you are not comfortable to meet your chat mate close to your home. Meet him/her in a public place like a mall or Restaurant that customer always comes and go.
- Plan your meeting during the day – Avoid meeting you’re chatting mate at night if possible, but if both of you are really busy during the day, make sure to choose a place that typically is fairly busy at the time you’re planning to meet.
- Bring a Friend – I know it’s awkward but it’s safer if you bring chaperoned, But if you prefer to be alone then it’s fine.
- Avoid alcohol – In your first meeting avoid drinking alcohol, we have silly saying in the Philippines ” If there is Liquor, There is plan” It means when a guy asks you to drink wine or any alcohol it means he has a bad plan to you. But it is just a joke, that can happen in real life or movie. Now, if you decide to drink make sure you just drink a little or just a light beer but much better not to drink for safety.
- Ask lots of question – The point of you’re meeting is to get to know each other better, be prepared to ask questions that make to get him to open up. Talk about what you talk online, it’s better to talk about it to make both of you more comfortable.
- Take personal belonging with you – If you want to go to the bathroom do not leave your purse or cell phone unattended. Treat your chat mate as a stranger in your initial meeting.
- Keep your first meeting brief – Initial meeting doesn’t have to spend too much time. Find a place you can sit and talk for an hour. But that is still depended on the two of you.
- Plan another meeting – If the first meeting went well, plan another meeting. This will help to the two of you to be more comfortable with each other and continue the relationship that you have.
When Meeting A Chatmate From Other Country
In this case, it is big different meeting your chat mate nearby your city. This is international so the situation is very different, it is not just 1 hour meet up, it’s weeks or months long.
- Ask her to pick you at the airport – You will fly to other countries just to meet her, but you have to ask her to pick you to the airport because you have no idea to this country and it’s your first time to this kind of vacation. Everything is new to you and you need her help. But it is still your choice if you would like to meet her right after you land in her country or you can manage to check in by yourself to your booked hotel.
- Meet her family – My advice is meet your chat mate family, relatives even friends. Because you will know if the woman you are chatting is not hiding anything if you know her family background and you meet her whole family, friends, and relatives. You will be more comfortable for her and you will discover more everything about her.
- Don’t show off your money – Avoid showing off your money or buying unnecessary and expensive stuff for her. She can take advantage of your generosity or would think you are rich in your country. If you let it happen, it will be a big problem when you can’t sustain her needs in the future.
- Ask lots of question – the same thing, ask everything to get to know each other better. You meet her in her country so this is your chance to ask everything, especially what you have talked online. It’s good that you talk about it in person than online.
- Do not trust too much – Even if you are bf/gf online or you are friends online, I recommend not to give your full trust. Remember that it’s your first time to meet her. Just be nice and enjoy together but please be observant.
- Stay at the same hotel – I know most chat mates are already bf/gf online before they meet in person, you will not fly for her if there is no reason. It’s very rare to meet in person if they are just a friend. I suggest asking her first if she is OK to stay with you at the hotel. You will know each other better if you are together every day. But if she doesn’t like to stay with you, you have to respect it.
- Do not leave your thing unattended – When roam around or dating your chat mate outside the hotel do not leave your things unattended, remember that it’s just your first meet, She can make you believed that she loves you but you never know it’s part of the plan. Still, do not give 100% trust.
Probably Can Happen When Meeting Chat Mate
When meeting a chat mate for the first time, you can’t say how safe you are. You are lucky if you are chatting to a very nice person but what if this person is not how good as what you think. What if he is Psychotic or drug addict and worst sex maniac and expert scammer. On a dating site, you have to be very careful about who you are chatting. Don’t give all your information when you are chatting online, for me nickname is enough to give. You don’t have to tell everything about you especially if you are just started chatting with each other. Don’t set up a meeting right away, don’t rush thing, you need a lot of time to build trust with your chat mate.
Before you meet your chat mate I’m sure you are excited and can’t explain how you feel. But what if you fee
that the person you are talking is seemed suspicious. He is nice to you, but of course,
you can’t avoid thinking that he can do something to you any moment.
If you are going to meet your chat mate you have to be smart,
bring or carry something that can be your
self-defense so if ever he does something to you, you have something that can save your life.
As much as possible tell your trusted friend where you will meet, always get ready for your phone and make sure you have a prepaid load to use for emergency.
And if you meet to a place that is not so familiar to you, use your eyes and observe. You must know where you can escape if ever he did something to you.
It still your decision
In the end, it’s still up to any person how will they handle the situation when they want to meet their online chat mate. If you think and feel your chat mate is the answer to your prayer go ahead meet right away. I can say, there are people that can easily fall in love online. And because they are in love, they can’t think smart until they realized that the person they trust from a dating site is a big pretender and expert scammer. Too bad for them.
So ladies and gents Be smart, Be observant, Be prepared!