We all know that finding love through online is the easiest way to do, online dating offers a lot to those who have no time to date offline and to those get broken-hearted from the previous relationship. Before you try online dating or if you have planned to be very serious looking for love online, make sure you know red flags in online dating. I wrote some red flags for you to be alert and prepared.
Note: This may apply to men and women
Red Flag #1
Empty Profile Picture – When somebody in an online dating site approached you or you saw his profile accidentally and saw that he has no profile picture that is a red flag. Ignore him because profile picture is the number one qualification of many daters if somebody has no pictures it’s either he is hiding something or he is not serious to find true love online.
Out Of Date Picture – I can say putting out-of-date picture are not a major red flag but it can be considered as minor red flag, some daters have a reason why they put outdated photos and for you to feel better, take initiative to ask that and feel if the reason is acceptable, he/she might send updated photos to you in a private message.
Images showing abs or cleavage – It’s not appropriate to a person looking for real and serious relationship uploading photos showing abs and cleavage inside dating site. A serious looking for love with serious intention is respectful even to their photos. In dating site, photos reflect the person and if your photos are showing cleavage for sure pervert men will take advantage of you.
Photos are Not facing in the camera – It’s not good if your online date photos don’t show his face in the camera, what’s the reason of hiding the face, is he shy or he is hiding something or he has other intention.
Profile Description – It’s a red flag if daters have no bio description or just saying very little info like I’m 40 years old and love the outdoors, I’m looking for serious relationship. That is not good.
Status – If online daters are single or divorced it’s easy for them to say they are single and divorced but if dater is separated you have to ask the reason why he is separated because if you fall to separated daters expect that he/she is still married to the ex-wife. It’s up to you if you want a complicated relationship with the separated person or you are willing to wait until your online date file a divorce.
Demand too much on his/her profile – It’s not good if the person is looking for somebody with a lot of qualification, and most especially if the daters are looking for person with a lot of qualification like, she must be good to like this or like that blah blah, I want somebody who is a good cook, can clean the house, can work, can massage my back when I’m tired. That daters are not looking for love, he is actually looking for a maid to serve him.
Red Flag #2
Asking to see you on webcam after 3 or more message – That’s a big red flag for me, a lot of perverts in online dating site do it as a bait, when they are feeling horny, you’ll never know what they can show to you when you open your cam so be careful if somebody inviting you on cam so quick.
Asking you to leave a site after 3 or more message – That kind of daters is kinda suspicious be careful with them, they might ask you many things in a private email and after that asking your personal information. It takes energy and time before giving trust to anyone in a dating site, it doesn’t matter if you talk in a dating site for a couple of weeks or more because there are no feelings and labels yet between you and him, you both need to build a good relationship as a friend before deciding to leave a site.
Asking you a question extremely too personal – If you encounter this kind of online dater’s make sure you don’t answer. It’s not normal to ask a personal question after just saying Hi and Hello. They might want to know your personal info to scam you. As I mentioned earlier, finding real love in a dating site takes time and energy.
Sending a message seems copy paste – Be attentive to this kind of scammers, many online daters get scammed because they don’t pay attention to this kind of modus. They are sending the same message to many online daters, and you have to notice that if you reply to their message it looks like their answer is irrelevant to your previous question.
Showing endearment so quick – Beware when they call you babe, love, honey etc. after a couple of conversation. That’s not the right process of finding real love online. They might use their sweet words just to get what they want to you but might dump you after they get it.
Red Flag #3
Take a long time before you get a reply – If you encounter online daters responding to you after a couple of hours or next day be careful with them. They might chat different person, in that case, you’re the one can feel if he/she is lying if you know that your chat mate is not working what’s the reason of not responding to you on time.
Jealous attitude – If your online date has this attitude expect the bad mood every day, this kind of jealous has 2 types it’s either jealous with reason which is healthy for both of you or jealous without reason which is unhealthy to the relationship. When a person gets jealous with a reason it’s either somebody flirts with her boyfriend so it’s normal that she will get jealous but she is mature enough to forget it later. When the person gets jealous without reason it means she is an attention seeker and a childish. Like she doesn’t want you to go out with your friends, she doesn’t want you to talk to anybody or she accuses you without any proof etc. that only means she wants to control you.
Talk about ex all the time – It’s enough to talk about ex sometime or if somebody asks, but if you’re chatting mate talk about Ex all the time even if you don’t ask that’s a red flag. It’s up to you if you want to stop her to talk about that and tell her to forget the Ex. But if after you talk to her and still keep on telling about Ex I think you have to find a new one.
Negative attitude – If you encounter a chat mate with a negative attitude what would you do, she doesn’t even believe in you no matter how to explain you do. Well, I guess you better think if she is best for you.
Red Flag #4
Frequently talk about sex – Talking about sex to online date is a big red flag and If somebody does it, you better block him. If daters in dating site doing it, that only means he has no respect for women and they just looking for fun and sex, not real love.
No planned to meet – If you joined an online dating site it means there is a big possibility that you need to meet somebody at the right time. If your online date never talks about meeting in person or no planned to meet you that is a red flag. What’s the point of wasting time talking to him if he has no plan to meet you?
No social media account – If somebody can join a dating site it means he can also join other social media like Facebook. If you’re chatting mate has no social media please start to think because he might be hiding something.
Sending Unlimited Message when you can’t reply – This is not a good thing, expect that this person is worst in a person. Because he has no patience to wait for your reply.
Impress you with humble brags – Avoid person that keeps on bragging you, like bragging his nice car, nice salary or he can even send a thousand dollars every week to you. Don’t believe that kind of man, he just wants to get you quick.
No stable job – If you’re looking for a serious relationship and your target is to get married after knowing your online date to online and offline you better avoid daters without a stable job. But of course, it’s still up to you if you want to follow your heart.
Asking you money – This is a major red flag in dating online, never send money to anyone in a dating site if they ask you.
Hope Those Red Flags Can Help you
Everybody deserves a great love story, I hope my red flag alert list can help you. There’s a lot of Catfish inside dating site, you have to be very careful choosing a date. Beware of this red flags, try to protect yourself to anyone, don’t let others fool you. And if you finally found the right person online make sure to meet in person right away so that you can make the relationship real and not just imaginary. Always remember that there is no real love in online dating unless you decided to meet in person.
If you have any question or you want to share your online dating experience don’t hesitate to comment below.